Cycle 5 Session 21 - Re-Parenting Myself

Re-Parenting

The process of Re-parenting yourself is to address beliefs and customs that no longer serve you as an adult with a purpose. Becoming a new parent to yourself, continually teaching yourself, and using that wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to grow and become the best person you can be. 

Self-Reflection Questions

WHO do you have a fear of becoming?

WHAT about your parents disappointed you most, when looking back?

WHERE do you feel misunderstood most?

WHY do you need to revisit your childhood emotions?

WHEN you think about moving forward, what thoughts pop up in your head?

HOW do you feel about yourself when you make mistakes?

Parenting Yourself

• Re-parenting yourself is a process where you revisit moments during your life where you got stuck. You didn't know how to process that information, so you put it on a shelf. It remains on that shelf with all its emotions attached. You are now equipped with the V.E.S.P.M. tools to help yourself. Time to unpack. Babysteps!

• Sometimes, your parents or other adult/s who were there were unable to deal with a situation in a way that was satisfying to you. It could have been due to circumstances, resources, finances, culture, lack of knowledge, fear, guilt, former experience/knowledge, the list goes on. Re-parenting is understanding and forgiving them.

• Do Not spend time trying to figure out why someone did or didn’t do something. The logic and emotion between a child and an adult during any time in history will never match up. Adults and children simply live in different worlds.

•  As an adult, you have learned that each person has different beliefs and customs, and everyone has a story.

• The process of re-parenting yourself using the V.E.S.P.M. method takes dedication and repetition. It may also take making some big changes in your life. Being a parent is a big step, even to yourself. You must give yourself time and attention. You must show yourself love and care. You must be mindful of who and how you spend your time, getting to enjoy yourself by yourself without anyone else's opinion or input may take some getting used to.  

•  Digging deep and addressing everything that happened to you, even the “weird stuff” that you don’t talk about because you think it's either non-traumatizing or not something you want to share, is necessary. You may need to use a journal

Ask yourself

What happened or what did I see?

What did it lead me to believe?

What did I promise myself because of that experience?

What were the pros and the cons of my decision? 

How can updating my V.E.S.P.M. plan help me do better? 

Self-Reflection Points 

This suggested Generational Chart might help you to understand and communicate your view with others, not your age. The media has always played a part in influencing people.

• The Lost Generation (1880-1899) * Began to give attention to a V.E.S.P.M. Plan. (establishing new VESPM plan)

• The Greatest Generation (1900-1919) *Began to give attention to Values. (Values shift from family to fortune)

• The Silent Generation (1920-1939) *Began to give attention to Ethics. (Low/none ethical standards)

• Baby Boomers Generation (1940-1959) *Began to give attention to Spirituality. (Moral breakdown)

• Generation X (1960-1979) *Began to give attention to Physical. (Health & disease scare)

• The Millennial Generation Y (1980-1999) *Began to give attention to Mental.(Mental health breakdown increases)

• Generation Alpha Z (2000 - 2019) *Re-established a new V.E.S.P.M. Plan. (repeat 20yr. Cycle)

• Generation ((2020 - 2039) Values

• Generation (2040 - 2050) Ethics