Cycle 7 Session 34 - Personality Types 

*Personality Types

Passive -  You have boundaries but won't stand up for anything, even yourself, if challenged. 

Passive-Aggressive - You are not willing to express yourself using words to confront a situation directly, but are willing to indirectly confront the same situation in other ways. 

Assertive – You are confident and self-assured when expressing your needs without disrespecting or undermining others. 

Aggressive – You are ready or likely to respond or confront with an intimidating or condescending undertone when your needs are not met. Not showing much concern for others' feelings.

Angry - You are not joyful and seem to always be in a defensive mood. 

Rage- You are easily annoyed or hostile. Unwilling to maintain self-control.

Self-Reflection Questions

WHO do you know that is passive?

WHAT can be the downside of being passive-aggressive?

WHERE do assertive people fit best in a place of business?

WHY would a person want to show that they are aggressive?

WHEN  a person is angry, can you make them happy with gifts and actions?

HOW  should you deal with a person who has issues controlling their rage?

Self-Reflection Points (just for fun)

•  When confronting a passive person, you want to use a very gentle and patient approach. They don’t always say what they mean. They may agree with you just to make you happy. So do more listening than talking.

• When confronting a passive-aggressive person, you must be honest and direct while keeping a gentle tone. They don’t always fully express themselves with outward emotions, but rest assured, if offended, a swift reaction is to follow. Be sure to end that conversation with clarity. (double check)

• When confronting an assertive person, they tell the facts and want the facts. They can sometimes seem very focused on the task, but still enjoy small talk. However, they are more than willing to let you know if you are going off track. That means checking your feelings at the door.

• When confronting an aggressive person, it's best to use a humble approach. They like to feel dominant. They are great at using words and body language to try and intimidate others. Don’t come off as competitive; it will be a never-ending battle. The best way to communicate with them is to be very direct and cut the small talk.

• When confronting an angry person, always understand IT’S NOT YOU they are defensive with everyone. Everyone and anyone can become a victim. You may find yourself in a situation with an angry person and not understand how you got there. Be direct and talk respectfully; they are looking for reasons to doubt you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. They will feel you are not hiding anything and may let their guard down a little. Leave your emotions at the door.

• When confronting a person dealing with rage, proceed with caution. This person can be unpredictable and violent. It may be best to leave the situation or seek help. If you are unable to escape, be mindful of the words and actions you use until help comes. Remember, survival is key. Prevention is the best protection. Stay away!

*A person can switch from one personality to another at any given time, depending on the situation or a medical condition.  You don't own a personality type, because as you grow, you must change. However, periodically, if you would like, you can take an online personality test. There are many to choose from online – pick a few. Have fun with it. You may learn something new about yourself!