C1 Session 2 - The 5 Stages of Life

The 5 Stages of Life

During Childhood.....

Under the care of an adult. Parental Guidance and, genetic urges. 

WHO provided the necessary items (food, clothing, shelter) you needed during childhood?

WHAT kind of environment (emotionally) did you grow up in?

WHERE did you learn about spirituality when you were a child?

WHY were both parents' roles important during childhood?

WHEN you got disciplined was it fair?

HOW were your educational needs met? 

During Adolescence.....

Welcome in ideas from other families, environments, books, internet, etc.

WHO acknowledged you when you? 

WHAT did you want to grow up and become?

WHERE were some places you liked visiting?

WHY do you think adolescence is called the awkward years?

WHEN it came to your physical well-being how much attention was given to it?

HOW connected to your spirituality were you during adolescence? 

During Adulthood.....

No longer under the supervision of another adult. On the search for how you plan to live your adult life... Looking for your purpose

WHAT matters most to you now?

WHAT morals do you practice?

WHAT does spirituality mean to you?

WHAT does it mean to be physically well?

WHAT does life look like when you are happiest? 

Re-Parenting Yourself

• Re-parenting yourself is a process where you revisit moments during your life when you need guidance from an adult. You are now that adult. Eqiuept with the tools to help yourself.

• Currently, the adult/s that were there were unable to deal with the situation in a way that was satisfying to you. It could have been due to circumstances, resources, finances, culture, lack of knowledge, fear, guilt, the list goes on. The point is you are still not happy about what happened.

• The process of re-parenting yourself using the V.E.S.P.M. method takes dedication and planning. It may also take making some big changes in your life. Being a parent is a big step, even to yourself. You must give yourself time and attention. You must show yourself love and care. You must be mindful of who and how you spend your time, getting to enjoy yourself by yourself without anyone else opinion or input may take some getting used to.  Etc. 

• Do Not spend time trying to figure out why someone did or didn’t do something. The logic and emotion between a child and an adult during any time in history will never match up. Adults and children simply live in different worlds. As an adult, you know that now. You also have learned that people are people and each person has very different views and beliefs.

•  Digging deep and addressing everything that happened to you, even the “weird stuff” that you don’t talk about because you think it's either non-traumatizing or not something you want to share is necessary. You will need to use a journal and review your timeline and your 5 stages of life.

Yes, you will need to take notes during this entire process. Regularly going over those notes maybe even making a vision board about yourself. You will begin to recall situations one at a time. As you do, ask yourself;

What beliefs were being used to handle that situation at the time?

Who was in charge?

What was the culture, mood, and views of the world? etc.

At the level of Maturity .....

A NEW Start. Through trial and error, you have discovered what works and doesn't work for you. A time in life were you decide to love yourself just the way you are.  Knowing that GOD made you on purpose for a purpose and you have a right to be happy. So you ask yourself from the heart again...

WHAT are my priorities?

WHAT morals make me a better person?

WHAT does spirituality mean to you?

WHAT does it mean to be physically well?

WHAT does life look like when I'm in a healthy state of mind?

At the level of Growth..... (repeats throughout life)

Looking daily to learn and grow in knowledge and understanding along with exposure.

 WHO am I now vs 24 hours ago? 

WHAT have I done today to work towards my goal? 

WHERE else do I want to grow?

WHY is growth such a big deal for me?

WHEN was the last time I looked in the mirror and told myself that "I Love Me"?

HOW do I feel today about my strength and resilience?  

REGRESSION..... (unlikely to see a change)

You no longer or refuse to learn or have new experiences 

WHO am I now vs 1 year ago?

WHAT do I want to accomplish?

WHERE do I have support?

WHY do some things get better and some things don't?

WHEN was the last time I consistently gave something my all?

HOW do I celebrate when I do something great?  

Q - How has this session helped you learn something new about yourself?  

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