C3 Session 22 - Nobody Understands Me

Key Questions

WHO does the hidden you look like without the trauma?

WHAT about that thing you never talk about, can you write it down one time and rip it up?

WHERE do you feel misunderstood most?

WHY do we need to revisit our childhood?

WHEN you think about moving forward, what thoughts pop up in your head?

HOW can you change the way you feel about your bad memories that may affect you today?

Re-Parenting

When pain has been a place you had to protect yourself from all you know how to do is to put up a shield and remain safe.  The process of Re-Parenting yourself and revisiting that child and addressing issues that should have been addressed by a parent or another adult can be helpful. See 5 Stages of Life  

Self-Reflection Point

• Are you stuck (non-productive) waiting for someone else to make you feel safe? How long are you willing to wait? Give yourself a time limit or something you can control. Don't allow someone else's behaviors to change or determine how you treat others. (baggage)

• Regain your control by updating your V.E.S.P.M. plan. Be sure none of your beliefs are centered around your trauma. Think free and you will live free.

• Sometimes being the "damsel in distress" gives people who have experienced trauma a sense of power and control. For example; you will begin to think that people will see that you need help and be forced to help you. What you are doing is waiting on others to determine your moves and mood. They take away your independence.

• Forgiveness doesn't mean you don't set boundaries for yourself and others. It just means you stop feeding the hurt and begin to focus your attention on more important things such as love and purpose.

 Q - What strength must you develop to overcome hurt?

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