C3 Session 21 - Thoughts and Behaviors

Key Questions

Who should you not consider when a situation arises?

What do you do to remain level-headed in a highly emotional situation?  

Where in your body do you start to feel different when a difficult situation arises? 

Why is it necessary to review your emotional state before reacting? 

When you react to a situation without all the facts what can happen?  

How many times will things happen in life that you may not like? 

Cognitive Shifting

• Be present, time changes things. Situations may look and feel the same but they are not. Always get the current facts before your thoughts go wild with old memories. 

• When you have experienced a traumatic event you think differently about situations, especially when they look similar to the thing that happened to you. 

• Stop and ask yourself, (1) Could my emotions or past trauma be taking over in this situation? (2) Am I able to separate what has happened to me and be present?

• What are the possible consequences if I over or under-react? 

• Knowing when to step back from a situation that is too familiar can be beneficial to you and others in the situation. 

• After considering these suggestions, you can now react productively. This process is called cognitive shifting.

Self Reflection Points

• A present mind state will usually consider all matters at hand without prejudging or comparing the current situation to another.

• Developing a cognitive shift is a more productive way of thinking and will lead to a better outcome

• If you feel like you've experienced this situation before, your reaction may be heightened or prejudiced. Be mindful that you're not mixing up old emotions with new experiences. 

• Experiences are what happens in life. You have to know what is worth giving your time and attention to. 

• Take into consideration your current state of emotion as well as the other person's when dealing with a situation.  Having healthy V.E.S.P.M. beliefs will lead to healthy behaviors. If you are not in a sober state of mind, your decisions will not be sound. 

• Highly emotional states can also lead to bad decision-making. Check yourself before interacting with others. Life Lesson: "There are some things people, even you just can't say sorry for".

• If you have been a victim of a crime of any type or have been abused in any way please call 911 or the emergency number in your area to report it. You can also tell a trusted professional; a doctor, counselor, teacher, police officer, trusted friend or family member, or anyone willing to take action to stop the abuse.

Q - What is the thought process of a person who has dealt with trauma?

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